Advance planning and communication, along with a big dose of reassurance, will go a long way in helping everyone navigate the period of time before the service member leaves. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Prepare and plan together.

• Let caregivers and key people know that a parent is leaving. Start a support system of people you’ll be counting on for help. Inform anyone involved in your child’s care. (It’s OK to seek counseling if you need it – anonymously, if you prefer.)
• Talk to your child about the deployment. With no discussion, a young child may imagine something worse. Remind him: “Your mom (or dad) is very prepared. She knows how to do her job well, and she is not alone. She is working with others who also do their jobs well.”

Keep family connections strong.

• Create a “thinking of you” item such as a “hug-me” pillow: Stuff one of the service member’s T-shirts and sew it closed. When your child feels the need, he can wrap himself in a hug!
• Assure your child that you will continue your regular activities, such as bedtime stories, play dates, or family dinners.

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